Hey Honey, I can’t believe it’s been a year. I also can’t believe I’m writing you a letter ... it’s got to be over 30 years since I’ve done that. Anyway, let me give you a quick update on the boys (seeing this is an “open letter” I’m not going to say too much as I … Continue reading Letter to Lynn

    So, 37 years ago … when it all started for Lynn and I … to me she was just this beautiful girl that I couldn’t get out of my head or heart. But as I reflect back on it all … I recognize she became more than just “that girl” I was crazy … Continue reading Unsung Hero

We see tragedies everyday in this world … the news is cluttered with them. Sometimes we pause when we hear about them … but the fact of the matter is … the world doesn’t stop, life goes on. Whether it’s a mass shooting, a war atrocity, a major accident, etc … we may get angry, … Continue reading No Real Comparison

A few weeks ago, I got an instant message from a friend of mine. She wrote … "Saw Brendon’s post and it’s so sad". I replied ... "What Brendon post are you referring to". And she said … "He had a post I saw today with photo of note left from Lynn and about depression. Please … Continue reading A Son’s Pain

  I’m not telling you anything you don’t know when I say losing a loved one is such a difficult thing to deal with. But losing a loved one to suicide takes the grieving process to a whole other level. And the effects from suicide can be devastating to a family … with destructive powers … Continue reading It’s Nobody’s Fault … Yet So Destructive

Two years ago ... ~6 months after moving into our new house in Wilmington, the house was featured in a local magazine, the January 2016 addition of Wrightsville Beach Magazine (WBM) … the article was called "Cabana Haven". In this January's WBM edition, ~6 months following Lynn's passing, one of the featured article's is titled … Continue reading Isn’t It Ironic

Two of my dearest friends, Mike and Tracy, came to visit me the week before Christmas. They were coming home for the holidays from Australia and made a point to spend a few days with me in Wilmington before heading to Maine and New York to see their family. These same friends made that long … Continue reading With a little help from my friends …

  Based on my experience I think it’s fair to say that grief … mourning the passing of a loved one affects people in very different ways. But at least for me … and I’m willing to bet for most … the grief, the pain … comes in “waves”. And depending on the point in time, the circumstances … the waves vary in … Continue reading Waves & Firsts

Last Sunday we ... about 800 of us ... walked for our loved ones, our "Stars", that have been lost to suicide. The walk was billed "Out of the Darkness" and organized by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP). I had recently learned of the organization and the walk from a close friend of … Continue reading Our Star

So today, October 22nd, would've been our 29th wedding anniversary ... imagine that. 53 years old (both of us) and 29 years married to my high school sweetheart ... married for more than half our lives. If I go back to when we started dating and fell in love ... it's more like 36 years … Continue reading 29th Anniversary